010 – Thoughts Are Just Visitors – Jeremiah Bair

Owner of BairFit, go check out his website www.bairfit.com – Weekly blogs about fitness, mindset, nutrition, his journey Topics – Journey through depression and social anxiety to become an industry expert and helping others get in great shape without fitness running their life.

– Owner of BairFit, go check out his website www.bairfit.com

– Weekly blogs about fitness, mindset, nutrition, his journey

Topics

– Journey through depression and social anxiety to become an industry expert and helping others get in great shape without fitness running their life.

– My fitness journey: finding the happiness I was chasing in helping a client succeed, NOT in my own gym success

– ”If-then” thinking

– Struggles with social anxiety

– The importance of vulnerability

– Shifting how you define yourself from external to internal

– Importance of “creating space” daily

– Meditation/ ”getting out of your head”/being present

– Detaching yourself from your thoughts

– Positive self-talk

– The faults you see in others are often your own insecurities reflected back at you

– Anxiety and depression: where did that come from? Feeling like I wasn’t good enough. That I had to be the best for anyone to love me. Wanting only to impress people. Didn’t think they would love me if they could see my flaws/I was vulnerable.

Takeaways

– Detach yourself from your thoughts/feelings: realize that these thoughts/feelings are not who you are.

– Thinking of the voice in your head as a bad roommate, realizing how up and down it is, and just not true.

– The importance of vulnerability to building real relationships. Thinking of it as putting a piece of yourself out there, making it a  “building block” for a relationship, which the other person usually reciprocates.

– Looking for happiness internally instead of externally. Looks, validation from other people, social media, etc. is all temporary, and very fleeting. It will never make you happy for long. You must find the things internally that you love/value in yourself.